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THINGS YOUR SOUL WANTS YOU TO KNOW

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“Put your ear down close to your soul and listen hard.”
―Anne Sexton

Our soul is timeless, eternal and infinitely wise, and it needs to be listened to. Our “intuition” is really just our soul whispering prudent insight into our ears, especially in busy, stressful or confusing times.

Here are some encouraging things your soul wants you to know:

1.Some people talk with you in their free time, and some free their time to talk with you. Today, and every day, you can be the latter to the people you love.

2.The smallest act of kindness is always worth more than the grandest intention.

3.Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.

4.Sometimes you have to be kind to others, not because they’re nice, but because you are.

5.If you want others to be happy, you can practice compassion. If you want to be happy, you can practice compassion.

6.When you find peace within yourself, you become the kind of person who can live at peace with others .

7.It usually isn’t what you have or where you are or what you’re doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It’s how you think about it all.

8.Happiness is not a reaction or a result. It is a choice made in the moment. Let it be yours. Much of what holds you back is the fact that you keep negative experiences of the past alive in your mind. Let them GO!You may be tired, or disappointed, or annoyed, or uncomfortable. No matter what, your best option right now is to move positively forward.

9.It costs nothing to be positive. And it changes things for the better.

10.No matter how much time you feel you have waste or lost, it’s never too late to make the very best of the moment you’re in right now.

11.On particularly hard days when you feel that you can’t endure, remind yourself that your track record for getting through bad days is 100% so far.

12.Your “I CAN” is more important than your IQ.

13.Just focus on the step you’re taking now. Honestly, that’s all life is – small steps that you take every day, and then one day when you look back down the road it all adds up and you know you covered some serious distance.

14.You will not fail. Either you get the result you desire, or you learn what works and what doesn’t for next time.

15.Look at your problems as problems, and they will continue to hold you back. See them instead as opportunities in disguise, and they will be.

16.Consider the possibility that the little obstacles in your life are not obstacles at all, but stepping-stones.

17.Success is not the absence of failure. Success is what happens when you choose to take the next step and move on, beyond failure.

18.It’s easy for people on the sidelines to doubt and judge you when they aren’t taking any risks themselves. Don’t let them get to you. They may call you crazy when you’re just getting started but they’ll label you a genius once you’ve succeeded.

19.Don’t be afraid to provoke the status quo Maybe some of your ideas are crazy. But crazy ideas are what shake the world.

20.You can’t always wait for the ideal moment. Sometimes you must dare to do it because life’s too short to regret and wonder what could’ve been.

21.Fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in your mind. It’s difficult to follow your heart, but it’s a tragedy to let the lies of fear stop you.

22.The minute you understand that you can be weird and mold life your own way, you allow yourself to shake off the erroneous notion that life is just there, and that you’re just going to exist in it, rather than embrace it, change it, improve it, and truly live it.

23.Decide this minute to never again beg anyone for the love, respect and attention that you should be showing yourself.

24.Open yourself up. Allow yourself to feel, to be mindful and authentic. Tear down any emotional brick walls you have built around yourself and experience every exquisite emotion, both good and bad. This is real life.

25.Eat like you love yourself. Move like you love yourself. Speak like you love yourself. Live like you love yourself. Today!The curious paradox of life is that when you accept yourself just as you are, right where you are, only then can you change and grow.

26.Don’t let the idea of being rejected stop you from affirming what’s important to you. The right people will respect you more and hold you in higher regard if you’re honest and rigorous about your principles and values.

27.What you allow is what will continue. It’s better to be lonely for a while than allow negative people and their opinions derail you from your destiny.

28.Let people take you as you are, or not at all. By being yourself, you put something beautiful into the world that was not there before. And this helps everyone who’s worth helping (including YOU).One of the very hardest parts of loving someone: You have to give things up for them. And sometimes, you even have to give them up.

29.Never force anything. Give it your best shot, and then let it be. If it’s meant to be, it will be. Don’t hold yourself down with things you can’t control.

30.Consider the fact that being wrong is OK, and then admit that you are wrong when you are. Yes, it’s hard. Yes, it takes strength to admit it, but it makes you more humble and commendable. And even more importantly, realize that when you’re wrong, you’re meant to be wrong so that you may outgrow the things you need to outgrow.

31.Old worries are down payments on problems you may never have. Let them go. Today is always a new beginning; take a deep breath and begin again.

32.There comes a time when you have to stop thinking about your mistakes and move on. No regrets in life – just lessons that show you the way.

33.Remember the good times ,BE strong during tough times , love always, laugh often, live honestly, and be thankful for each new day.

34.If you are diligent and patient, everything you truly need in your life will come to you at the right time.

35.Look at how far you’ve come. You have made progress. And now, imagine how far you can go.

36.Everything will fall into place eventually. Until then, learn what you can, laugh often, live for the moments, and know it’s all worthwhile.

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TOUGH TRUTHS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS

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Here are twelve tough truths about great relationships:

A soul mate is really just a loving partner who’s willing to work with you. – To say that one waits a lifetime for their soul mate to come around is a bit of a paradox.  People eventually get tired of waiting, so they take a chance on someone, and by the powers of love and commitment they become soul mates, which takes a lifetime to perfect.

True love is often the most inconvenient kind. – Again, it takes two people who truly, TRULY want to work together, every day, compromises and all, to build something special.  That’s what great relationships are all about – daily teamwork.

There will be lots of little issues. – When we face pain in relationships our first response is often to sever ties rather than to maintain commitment, but the extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues  is a significant sign of the soundness of their relationship.

There will be lots of tough conversations.– The right words won’t always come easy, but when you don’t talk it out there’s a lot of important stuff that ends up not getting said.  Every great couple needs to argue (consciously and mindfully) now and then, just to prove that the relationship is strong enough to survive.  Long-term relationships – the ones that truly matter – are all about weathering the peaks and the valleys.

Conscious, mindful communication is necessary, but takes practice. – You can measure the happiness of an intimate relationship by the number of scars that each partner carries on their tongues, earned from years of biting back angry, unhelpful words.

There will be more honest misunderstandings than you’d like. – When it comes to understanding your partner, deal with them as they are, not how you’d like them to be.

There will be lots of apologies and necessary forgiveness. – Love is living your own life, but sharing it.  It’s forgiveness.  It’s making a million little mistakes with each other and turning them into learning experiences.  Love is patience, optimism, and sometimes it’s a simple kiss when there’s nothing left to say.

Partners can’t force changes in each other.  Instead of trying to change your partner, give them your support and lead by example.  If there’s a specific behavior they have that you’re hoping fades over time, it probably won’t.  If you really need them to change something specific, be honest and put all the cards on the table so your partner knows how you feel and why.  But keep in mind that the best way to love someone is not to change them, but instead to help them reveal the greatest version of themselves.

A great relationship isn’t needy. – In a great relationship, you love each other more than you need each other.

Even the greatest relationship won’t completely fix YOU. – If you’re not happy with yourself, or comfortable with your own truth when entering a relationship, there’s a good chance you’re not ready for that relationship.  Work on loving yourself first.

Some people won’t support your relationship, no matter how great it is. – Great relationships don’t always make sense, especially from the outside.

No relationship lasts forever. – People don’t live forever.  Appreciate what you have with your partner – the loving moments and all the little things.  You’ll never know how much they mean to you until the day they are no longer beside you.  And remember, just because something doesn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth your while.

Afterthoughts

The bottom line is that all relationships, including the greatest of them all, require patience and effort.  And no relationship will work flawlessly all the time.

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